According to ITIM, a religious advocacy group, several parents have been refused the right to observe mourning practices for their stillborn children. Parents are not informed that they have options at the hospital. The burial societies habitually refuse to allow the parents to hold a funeral, attend the burial, set up a headstone, or even know the location of the grave.
Halachically speaking there is nothing to prohibit a parent from mourning their stillborn child. Traditional mourning is left to the parent’s descretion when a child does not survive more than 30 days, In many communities a custom developed of the parents not mourning at all. However, the burial societies have turned a tradition into a rule and are denying mourning practices even from parents that want them.
ITIM has published a report describing the situation. It blames the Religious Services ministry for the situation, saying it has failed to compel burial societies to respect the wishes of the parents. ITIM is considering proposing legislation to remedy the situation.
For the full story see the Jerusalem Post.